Is Marriage Obsolete?
Would you get on a flight if the odds to reach your destination were
less than 50%?
Do you dare eat something if there was a 50% chance of dying from food
I used to think getting married only led to divorce. A marriage
certificate is only a piece of paper that just documents people to
keep track of men and women by the religious system and government. I
still believe true love does not need a piece of paper!
The cost of a marriage is a financial burden on any couple and their
families. Whose idea was it to require marriage bonding to pay to
register with the political and religion systems anyway? Paying money
to the religion you chose to hold your marriage with is unnecessary,
when you can just hold a less expensive civil marriage that may be
performed by a judge, justice of the peace or a municipal clerk.
Heck, get a ship’s captain to do it and save money.
If you want to give the government more money, over and above the
income tax you already pay them, then register. Then there are all the
extra costs for the invitations, dresses and suits, the flowers and
decorations, church rental, hall payments for the reception, the meal
and drinks, the entertainment, the vehicles and the most expensive
part is the engagement ring and the wedding bands. Wouldn’t it be
more practical to pay for a better honeymoon?
Common Law relationships used to be considered in a negative way by
society (ideology from the Victorian era). Common Law marriages have
been legal for decades and after a year of cohabiting together, a
couple are automatically considered ‘married’ yet no costs are
incurred by the couple.
Marriage in men’s minds only leads to the end of the positive joyful
part of their relationship. Here me out:
1) The first stage of love is liking a person.
2) Then dating this person, while still dating others.
3) Then taking your non-monogamous relationship to a monogamous one.
4) Once you realize you truly love each other you both decide to move
5) Then you decide to live a Common Law relationship, without actually
being officially married.
6) After agreeing to live together for a minimum of 12 months, the
state considers a Common Law relationship officially married, yet
without the cost of a ceremony.
7) Sometimes both of you choose to have a marriage ceremony and
register as a married couple.
Is the next stage divorce?
It seems so. Over 50% of all marriages end up in divorce. Some
people marry more than once, some between 2 to 5 marriages that end in
failure! Divorces are very costly. First off, the divorcing spouse
is allowed to seize, confiscate or take 50% of all the married
couple\s assets (money, children, pets, real estate properties and
even debts) unless the smart ones signed a pre-nuptial agreement.
Lawyers are the real winners of a divorce.
After living with my common law wife for just over 30 years, she
finally said ‘yes’ and we had a very small wedding ceremony with a
Justice of the Peace. Nothing really changed. Life carries on, but
we now have to merge our tax forms and other things. The reason we
married is to show each other we are really in love and wanted to show
our children that they should be married to fit into the society and
culture. I love my wife no more, no less than when we were not
married. Good thing that marriage is still up to the couple and no
one else. Unless you are from a culture or country where your parents
decide who you must marry!
There’s already way too much control over our lives by governments and
authority. No need for our parents to dictate the nation’s
programming that couples should be married. Thank goodness rules
don’t always need to be obeyed. Enjoy your future together and don’t
be influenced by anyone else. After all, it’s your life!0